What can you do when you are so consumed with outrage at another that your own quality of life is negatively impacted? How do you stop a behavior that you know is unhealthy but has infiltrated your personality and has taken over the controls?
Ask yourself these questions:
1) Does your anger change the past?
2) Are you willing to forgo your happiness for someone who is insensitive, greedy, oblivious, or dishonest?
3) Do you believe your anger will change how others view this person?
4) Are you prepared to allow another to define your mood?
5) Are you ready to recognize people are not held to your values and that to wait for such will be fruitless?
Remember what defines you as a loving spouse and parent, as a dedicated worker, as a positive role model for your children, as a productive member of the community, as a true friend, as an honest person. Regardless of the transgression of another vow to be the better person- admit fault, acknowledge flaws, recognize imperfections, learn from your own life choices and pledge to not make the same mistakes. Refocus on your abilities to make this world better for yourself and those around you. Do not waste precious time fuming over one who is not worthy of your respect. Each time a negative thought comes to mind about this person do not dwell on it but instead make a conscious effort to give a well deserved compliment, do a favor , remember a person who has positively impacted your life, laugh out loud, help when it is not expected, appreciate what you have in your life. Never forget that you are the one in control of your emotional well being!
Amanda Custer
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